Over time, I’ve observed these distinct and intriguing behaviors among certain Nigerians:
* Making a phone call after sending a text message to ensure you receive the message. “I am calling to confirm you received the text I just sent sir.”
* Sending WhatsApp messages to wish you greetings every day of the week. “Happy Tuesday sir. Happy Thursday sir. Happy Saturday sir.”
* Expecting instant response to emails and following with a phone call to confirm whether you received an email sent just seconds ago. “I sent you the email sir. I want to confirm that you received it.”
* Requesting financial assistance without considering one’s own financial circumstances. “My brother, please send me some money, even if it is $100.”
* Offering excessive greetings before addressing the purpose of the call, regardless of time constraints. “Good morning sir, how is the family sir, how is madam, how about the children, hope you slept well, hope the weather is okay sir ….. Henhen, I have a question sir..”
* Establishing a familial connection where none exists, often for personal benefit. “Sir, I know you don’t know me and by your name, you are a fellow Nigerian. Just take me as your brother and help clarify this immigration question.”
* Asking for a discount on professional fees without a corresponding reduction in the scope or quality of work provided. “Sir, that fee is not for me o. What can you do for me. Sir, that fee for just going to Court to represent me?”
* Avoiding responsibility for one’s own mistakes. “The agent I used did not use my correct information on my visa application, but I signed because he asked me to.”
* Backing away from acknowledging or appreciating those who have provided assistance. “What’s the big deal in the help he rendered to me?”
* Repeatedly expressing gratitude excessively for the same assistance over an extended period. “Thank you for your help yesterday. Thank you for your help last week. Thank you for your help last month.”
* Finding excuses for unpaid financial obligations. “Sir, I have been inhibited from paying the money I owe you because of your children’s school fees.”
* Embracing religious faith without adhering to the fundamental tenets expected by most religions: love thy neighbor as thyself.
* Putting their burdens on others. “Can you imagine sir that my own brother will not help send my children to school?”
In conclusion, while these behaviors may seem distinctive to Nigerians based on my experience, it’s crucial to understand that they often stem from innocence, a lack of trust in the country’s infrastructure, a culture of care, poverty and a tendency to shift responsibilities and blame onto others. However, it’s important to recognize that these actions don’t always imply negative intentions.
It’s reassuring to know that the majority of Nigerians embody qualities such as being measured, empathetic, communicative, respectful, and responsible. These individuals serve as shining examples within our society, demonstrating the values of compassion, integrity, hardwork, brilliance and accountability.
As we reflect on these observations, let us also acknowledge the positive attributes of the majority and encourage others to learn from their example. Together, by embracing empathy, understanding, and personal responsibility, we can foster a culture of mutual respect and collective growth within our communities.
NB: Johnson Babalola, a Canada based lawyer, leadership consultant and corporate emcee, is a public affairs analyst.
